We all want to be happy, but finding “happiness” is, well, kinda hard. The nature of happiness is fleeting, dancing in the periphery. The moment you think you have a firm grasp on it, happiness slips out of your hands. This doesn’t mean happiness is impossible to obtain, but it should open our eyes to the fact that the way we pursue may be problematic. Here are 5, better ways of pursuing happiness that are supported by science.
Social anxiety is a lot like a monkey on your back. It’s a constantly distracting and disruptive presence that you can’t see. And it makes the very important things of connecting with others extremely challenging. So, if you like many others, struggle with social anxiety, read this blog. It will help! It you want to get the social anxiety monkey off your back it is imperative that you become aware of what you are feeling, why you are feeling that way, and how that feeling affects your behavior and your thinking. Below are steps how you can manage and even thrive in the face of social anxiety.
1. Aggressive—Assertive—Passive: People tend to fall on a spectrum of aggressive to passive in their style of communication and how they engage with others. An aggressive person is someone who believes they are entitled to take what they want. They are direct, have little regard for the feelings of others and don’t mind sharing their feelings. They don’t equivocate when addressing a problem or giving feedback. Typically, the aggressive person creates resentment in others. On the other end of the spectrum is the passive person, which is someone who ignores their needs, is indirect, is uncomfortable giving feedback, shies away from addressing problems. This style results in the passive person building resentment towards others since their needs never are met or addressed. Neither the aggressive or passive style promotes healthy relationships. When I work with clients, I recommend the assertive style, which is a person who can be direct and straightforward in addressing problems. They don’t shy away from giving feedback, advocating for their needs. And they do all these things in a manner that is diplomatic and respectful, but doesn’t deny or dismiss truth. The assertive person can communicate wants and desires without attacking others. Assertiveness promotes health in individuals and in relationships.
Everywhere you look, people are talking about their personality, the personality of others, taking personality quizzes or assessing the personalities of celebrities. We are obsessed with personality in our culture, but how much do those in our culture really know about personality. The following list of 8 Dynamics of Personality may surprise you.
Learning to Live isn’t your typical self-help book. Learning to Live contains 20 chapters, each one like a mini session with an experienced mental health counselor. The chapters address a wide array of mental health topics. The central focus is to help you become unstuck and learn the lessons that can free you. However, learning is a process and sometimes you need expert outside help that can help.
So instead of spending money counseling session, pick up Learning to Live and reap the benefits of counseling now!
If you were out hiking and came across a stream, would you immediately start drinking? What if the water was contaminated? If the water was questionable, you wouldn’t drink, right? But you need water so what do you do? Many hikers don’t even worry about contaminants because they have filters, which take out the bad and leave the good. But what if your filter doesn’t work? How can you trust your water? Remove the word water and replace it with thoughts.
Looking for that perfect Christmas gift for your comic book loving friend or family member? Look no further! Fans of the Marvel and DC movies and comics will love “Even A Superhero Needs Counseling.” In it you will find an in-depth guide to understanding your favorite comic book character from a psychological perspective while providing you with relevant and insightful advice. In other words, by learning more about Thor, the Hulk, Wonder Woman, Stephen Strange, Superman and many more, you can learn more about yourself. Comic books aren’t just entertainment; they can be a window into the strengths and weaknesses of humanity.
Daniel Bates is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who offers his expert counsel for superhero, supervillain and readers alike. In each chapter, you’ll find:
- An overview of major comic book character’s origin story, arch-enemies, and dynamics of their psychology.
- A mental health diagnosis based on the relevant details of the character’s symptoms.
- What mental health treatment would consist of based on the diagnosis and how it would help their life.
- And, most importantly, how your favorite comic book character’s story can be informative for you own personal growth.
So, if you struggle with anxiety you’re in good company, Superman can relate. If you’ve had an addiction, you and Tony Stark could go to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting together. Or, if you’ve ever had relationship problems, the Scarlet Witch can commiserate with you. Whatever the problem, you will find a superhero or supervillain that shares your struggle. And it is through their stories, you can find help for yours.
Men commonly believe that their two main roles when it comes to marriage and family is to be a protector and a provider. Yes and no. Men are to be providers. Of course, no controversy there. You are supposed to contribute to your family. More and more these days women work too. So, it doesn’t matter who makes the most money, but make sure you are contributing. However, “contributing” restricted to just $$$. Contribute in other ways like decision making, family time, invest in your marriage. Put yourself out there, don’t just demand from your wife and family.
Men are to be protectors. Again, most men wouldn’t argue with this statement. Our culture, most men and frankly most women would agree that men should protect their wives, kids, extended family and community. But doesn’t protection extended itself only to the physical realm? Are men supposed to be protectors in other ways? Shouldn’t men be protective of their marriages? Meaning, men shouldn’t be investing themselves physically, sexually and emotionally in relationships outside of marriage.
Doctor Strange, sorcerer supreme, master of black magic, former gifted neurosurgeon brings the “wiz” to “wizard.” Sorry, that was corny, but I couldn’t help myself. Stephen Strange, world-renowned surgeon, lost the use of his hands in a tragic car accident. Seeking salvation, he traverses the Himalayas to seek out a spiritual master. Learning the mystical arts, Stephen Strange transforms into Doctor Strange, one of the most powerful sorcerers on the planet. He possesses many tools in his arsenal, including the Cloak of Levitation, Eye of Agamotto, and the Book of Vishanti. With these powerful tools, Doctor Strange defends this reality from inter-dimensional beings seeking power, dominion and control over Earth.
Imagine feeling like everyone you know, everything around you, everything you are thinking and feeling is fake. That what you are experiencing can’t be trusted. And instead being in the here-and-now, you feel like a detached observer, watching yourself from a disconnected vantage point and there’s no way for you to reconnect yourself and reality. No, this isn’t the plot of Christopher Nolan’s movie Inception. This is a real phenomenon that people deal with everyday. And before you start thinking the experience sounds kind of cool, I can assure you, its not.